Becoming a Mountainclimber

I LOVE the MOUNTAINS! I always have. When I was a little girl, I used to dream of one day living on Walton's mountain. When I am surrounded by them, I find that I am more calm. Relaxed. Settled. Except when they are "life mountains".

We all have them. Some are large and others are smaller and more "foothill-like". Life mountains are those problems and situations that arise that seem huge and at times, insurmountable. This morning it occurred to me that as much as I LOVE the physical mountains, there are times I long for only a flat ground of faith upon which to walk. Then the question came to me, "How much faith does that take?" The truth is, the answer is a weak, "Not much!"

"If you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.” (Matthew 17:20)

While it's nice to think that they all would just move out of the way with the exercise of a little faith, they don't always. Instead, step-by-step and inch-by-inch, we have to climb them. Conquer them!

I'm at the base of a mountain. I cannot see the climb, the peak, or the other side. But I am sure that there are blessings on it.

I am reminded of a conversation I had with my DS 3 when he was only 4 years old and preparing to go to Kindergarten. With tears in his eyes, he said he didn't want to go to Kindergarten. I asked why. His answer shocked me, "Because I might have to go to fifth grade!" What!?! Fifth grade??? What did THAT have to do with going to Kindergarten? He soon told me, "You have to get shots when you go to fifth grade!" He was looking at the entire mountain and figured if he never took the first step, he wouldn't have to take the 101st step.

We all do it. We all stare up at our life mountains at times and cry out to God, "I don't WANT to go!" But he gently nudges us to take the first step...and the next...and the next and the next. Because he's there the whole time.

Today I'm choosing to climb the mountain WITH faith! Here are the promises I am taking with me on my journey:

Nahum 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him.

2 Corinthians 4:8
We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair.

Psalm 138:7
Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes, with your right hand you save me.

Isaiah 43:2
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.

1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

{If you're here to see Random Dozen--scroll past this post.}

Today I heard this song.



It's not the first time. In fact, I've known this song since my college days when it was first performed by Benny Hester. I bought the album (in vinyl) because the song spoke to me so much.

The story is timeless. It is the story of The Prodigal's Son (from Luke 15:11-32). The boy gets his inheritance early...squanders it...comes home ready to be a slave on his father's farm...then finds that his father is actually waiting on him by the road and runs out to meet him. Then his father throws a huge "welcome home" party. It's timeless in so many ways. Like the song, I've heard it a hundred times from a hundred angles. But today it spoke to me in a fresh way.

It occurred to me that we generally think of the prodigal as being away for months or even years. And I really think that's pretty clear from Jesus' words that the young man was gone for a while.

But today, as I drove down the street, singing the familiar refrain: "And then he ran to me, took me in his arms, held my head to his chest, said my son has come home again..." I thought about the times in my life when I've had "Prodigal Moments." I'm sure that every single time I've strayed in my walk, God still runs out to meet me when I return to him.

Every. Single. Time.

Then I thought how many times I've had those "Prodigal Moments" and how many times God was waiting with arms wide open.

And I was humbled.

Deeply.

Random Dozen

1. Have you ever fired a gun or shot a bow and arrow?

I have a "thing" with loud noises. One doctor told me that I probably didn't have nerve endings in my ears. My family just thinks in my "first life" I probably died in the war with cannon fire or something. (Nooooo I don't believe in reincarnation--just throwin' the theories out there!) Anyway, I cannot even be around balloons popping, so gun shooting is absolutely, 100% out of the question!

Now, I HAVE shot a bb gun and an "air rifle" and I am quite an excellent shot with those. This has always made me wonder how I'd do with a bigger, louder gun sans the ear problem of course!

I have fired plenty of arrows. Archery used to be part of our PE classes in our state. We also did it at camp when I was a preteen. I'm not as skilled at that as I am the bb gun and air rifle. (Sheez, after that long answer, you may not even be reading on to the next 11!)

2. Do you know where your childhood best friends are? I didn't until the advent of Facebook. I have reconnected in cyberspace with MANY of them! And I'm TRYING to connect with some in real life....I'm hopeful it will happen in the next---oh---year or five or ten at the rate we're going! ;-)

3. Do you usually arrive early, late, or on time? This is a VERY funny question for me. I am pretty much a little early to on time most of the time. The BIGGEST argument DH and I had during our dating years was because I was TWO (count 'em ONE-TWO) minutes past when I said I would be for dinner in college. He's MUCH more relaxed these days and I'm much more on time. We balance each other that way!

4. Are you more of a New York or California type? Probably NY, but I don't really know why. I've been to California, but it's not my favorite place at all.

5. Do you have a special ring tone? For those who have stayed with me this far--here's a "brief-answer gift": Nope.

6. What is your favorite type of chip? Hmmmm...that's a good question. I don't really like chips all that much. If I was picking one out, I'd have to say the Ballreich's that my Mother loves. They only sell them in VERY FEW places...so we have to buy out the store when we go to Ohio in order to bring them home to Mom. They do taste different...and I can eat quite a few!

7. Best comedy you've ever seen is ....I HAVE to copy Melli on this one...Menopause the Musical is definitely a roll-on-the-floor-laughing kind of show! If you've never heard my story about seeing this musical the first time, here's the link to it. I still think of this event EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I have seen it...which, by the way, is THREE.

8. Have you ever cut your own hair? To quote Dr. Phil, "How'd that work for ya?" Yes, yes I have. And, Phil, I'll have to abstain from answering the question of how it worked so as not to incriminate myself.

9. If you were going to have an extreme makeover, would you rather it be about your house or your personal self? Most definitely my house. There are so many things I'd love to see done...of course, I remember "Trading Spaces" and I would have to have SOME control over the makeover. To let someone just change my traditional decor to Asian or Art Deco (for example) would NOT be OK with me!

10. Are you allergic to anything? Another brevity gift: NOPE.

11. Why is it so hard to change? My favorite "change quote" is "Nobody likes change except a wet baby." It's hard because it requires doing something different. Even when it's positive it's out of our norm and that means that initially we're out of rhythm. Most positive change is worth the uncomfortable feeling that precedes it, however.

12. One last question dedicated to February love: CS Lewis said, "To love is to be vulnerable." Please share one example of that assertion or share any thought you'd like to about this topic. When you love something or someone with your whole heart, then you are at risk of not being loved in return. You risk being hurt deeply. In essence, you put your heart out there for another and ask them to hold it for you. You're vulnerable because it can be painfully broken by the actions and attitudes this sometimes brings. BUT I believe if we never become vulnerable, then we never can fully love anyone or anything. We HAVE to open ourselves up and trust that each moment of love and each heartbreak is what makes us who we are.

OK that was a DEEP question to end this on! Happy last week of February everyone!

Three Book Reviews:

My reading life went on a downward spiral in the second half of 2009. I finished a few books. I even have some read that I didn't review...but, for the most part, it stalled. I could give a thousand reasons why, but it wouldn't really matter. What does matter is that I totally miss getting "lost" in a book on a regular basis. My goal is to pick up my pace and actually start taking the time to do this more often.


I also miss writing my book reviews. I like recording what I read. It shows, in so many ways, who I am. I have now finished three books since January and decided to get back in the swing of things, I'd review them here.

First up is Nothing But Trouble by Susan May Warren. This is the first in a Christian Fiction series about PJ Sugar. She is a young woman who has spent ten years after high school graduation moving around the country hoping to avoid the disaster that she thinks defines her life.


When her sister calls and says that she needs her to come home for her wedding and honeymoon to watch her four-year-old nephew, PJ is reluctant. Still she comes to her sister's aid and is forced to face some of her past. First is her Mother, but the most difficult is her former high school sweetheart, Boone Buckham. Boone is now a police officer in their small town of Kellogg, Minnesota.


PJ's plan to only stay a short time is put on hold when her best friend's husband is arrested for the murder of their former high school teacher. PJ springs into action and unearths some inner "private investigator"! Throughout this book is the important lesson that despite our flaws, we are all important and flawless to God.


I enjoyed this book and was thrilled to hear that book 2, Double Trouble, is now available! It was an enjoyable read with plenty of humor and suspense woven together.

My next read was the fourth book in the Sisters, Ink series by Rebecca Seitz. This is also a Christian Fiction series that centers around the Sinclair sisters, their husbands, and their Father and new Stepmother. These four sisters love scrapbooking together.



I won the first book back in March 2008. I was immediately drawn to the Sinclair sisters on many levels. Their Daddy is a preacher who lost his wife to cancer. They live in a small town in Tennessee (one of my favorite places). They are all adopted to the Sinclairs and are from four different ethnic backgrounds...yet they are bound to each other as only siblings can be.



Perfect Piece is the story of Meg, the sibling who is most like their Momma. Early in the story, Meg collapses with a brain tumor. Surgery removes the tumor, but what ensues is the recovery from this type of surgery. Meg, and the family, are forced to deal with severe dpression, mood swings, anger and bitterness. She goes from being a "glass half full" to a "glass half empty" girl. It's very hard for all of them to handle...most of all, Meg's husband Jamison. He misses the person with whom he fell in love.



As with the first three novels, this book also has a faith thread woven throughout. I love the fact that Seitz keeps it real and is not overbearing with it. These are everyday people struggling with everyday problems.

If you choose to pick up this series, I highly recommend reading it in order. The stories definitely build on each other. Honestly, I am going to miss this family! As I reached the final pages in this novel, I was a bit sad to see it end.


Finally, I veered away from Christian Fiction to read one of my favorite Secular Fiction writers, Nicholas Sparks. It's been a while since I've picked up any of Sparks' books. It's not because I don't thoroughly enjoy them, but because I know they will evoke some deep emotions while I am reading.

Since I never know whether he's going to have a happy or sad ending, I sometimes choose not to begin! I've been known to lay on my couch reading with tears streaming down my face. I don't always mind that, just have to be in the right mood for it!

The Choice is the love story of Travis Parker and Gabby Holland. It takes place in the small shore town of Beaufort, North Carolina. The story moves from the present, February 2007 where Parker is bringing flowers to his wife who "he has not spoken to". He quickly flashes back 11 years and recounts the story of how they met and fell in love. Here's a synopsis from Barnes and Noble:

Sometimes, we make choices we didn't choose to make. Travis Parker, for
example, wasn't looking for a relationship; from his perspective, his life was
pretty close to perfect. And new neighbor Gabby Holland wasn't exactly dating
material. This attractive redhead had a longtime steady boyfriend and treated
Travis like an unwanted guest. But the unexpected can reshape our lives,
shredding every well-laid plan into wedding confetti... Another masterfully
nuanced relationship novel from Nicholas Sparks.

I agree. The writer quickly brings us back to the present-day as Travis Parker is forced to answer the question, "How far would you go to keep the hope of love alive?" I am choosing to leave a more detailed review for this part of the book as I think it would just give away too much of the story. Finally, the epilogue does a nice job of bringing closure to this story.

I won't say I didn't go on the emotional roller coaster with this book. I found it hard to put down. There were moments where I was forced to think about my own ethical choices and wondered what choice I would make in Travis' situation. The truth is, I don't know. But, I DO know that in the end, it's LOVE that often helps us make our decisions!

There you have it...my first three completed books from 2010! I'm still thinking about strolling through some of the classics. I may hold that off till Summer...we'll see.

An Award and some Introductions..

I received this sweet blog award from Catherine over at TheGiesbrechts Time and Tide. a week or so ago. I "met" Catherine this past year through Linda's Random Dozen Meme. At the time I started following her, Catherine was going through the pain of losing a parent. Her response was absolutely amazing and so transparent. If you get the chance, go visit her...you'll be glad you did.

Here is the information on this award: The Sunshine Award is awarded to bloggers whose positivity and creativity inspire others in the blog world.

Below are the rules for accepting this award:

* Put the logo on your blog or within your post.
* Pass the award on to 12 fellow bloggers.
* Link the nominees within your post.
* Let the nominees know they have received the award by commenting on their blog.
* Share the love and link to the person whom you received this award from.

Soooo...here are 12 blogs that bring sunshine to my week...heck they bring sunshine to my life!
They are in no particular order--other than I went straight down my blogroll to add them here:

1. Melli over at Insanity Prevails I met Melli online a few years ago. We had the pleasure of actually meeting in real life when the Blogging Babes merged on Savannah in 2007. Melli has taught me so much via her blog, my email, and her friendship. She's one of my best "prayer pals"! This is one of the things that constantly amazes me about the blog world. I really have found some amazing friends!

2. Linda over at 2nd Cup of Coffee is someone I have never met in real life, but with whom I feel quite connected. Her posts make me laugh regularly. She is a joy to "read". We realized that our lives sort of intersected several years ago when her church (from Muncie, IN) was on a mission at our former church (in Pt. Charlotte, FL). That was before blogging...but I have always felt like I know her "in real life" for that reason.

3. Next up is Allie of Allie Chilling. Allie is from South Africa. I love her spark when she writes. She shares some fun and insightful blogposts. It has been a joy to get to know this blogging friend from a totally different place!

4. Lauren at Baseball and Bows is such a "bright spot" blogger! She has the sweetest stories of her children and their sweet sayings. Lauren was a teacher before she stayed home with her children. She loves books, reading, and making memories with her family.

5. Kelly at Chatty Kellyis someone I met through Linda's blog. She's become one of my favorites as she posts about her life as well as her faith. She challenges me and brings such joy as she uncovers some of God's promises to us.

6. Jane at Cozy Reader is one of the first blogs I started reading as I ventured into the blogging world. She and I have also met in real life. We are both "Minister's Mates" with husbands who graduated from Asbury Seminary. We connected pretty fast and she, too, is one of my prayer pals online.

7. Busy Bee Suz at Day by Day with Suz is the next recipient. She is a "newer blog" read for me, but I find her musings just delightful! I suppose one of the first things that attracted me to her was her name "Suz" cause many of my friends and family call me "Sooz"...and I thought it was cool to find another one "out there" in blogland. But her posts are definitely what keep me coming back.

8. Leigh Ann at Living to learn and Learning to Live is another "long time blog read" for me.
I honestly feel as if I am watching her children grow before my very eyes! Leigh Ann is a homeschooling Mom who lives in the north. She shares her stories about life with her kids and family as well as her amazing craft creations. She's quite creative!

9. Mary at Mary Hess is yet another blogger I have met in real life. She and I "met" via another website for Christian women a few years back (before blogging). We followed each other into the blogging world. She even designed one of my blog layouts a while back--cause she's a great friend like that! I love reading her insightful posts. She, too, is one of my online prayer pals. I love having these people in my life. They keep me focused and centered when I need it---and even when I think I don't!

10. Merrie at Merrie Days is also a fellow Minister's Mate. I don't even know how our paths crossed, but I am SO GLAD they did! She has an amazing family and shares her life with them as well as in the ministry. Her blog brings me joy!

11. Liz at Tickled Pink is someone I know in real life. She worked at my school and I have LOVED watching her blogging journey as she's become a first time Mommy! Her stories of life with Abby are delightful. They take me back to the time my guys were little. It really DOES seem like just yesterday on most days!

12. Daisy over at Lazy Daisy Log is also one of the "Blogging Babes" I met in Savannah! She is a real inspiration to me as she shares the joys of family and ministry via her blog. Daisy is also one of my online prayer pals. I love her encouragement and "you-can-do-it" spirit! What a joy!

So, there you have it. I hate narrowing down the blogroll to only 12 people! The truth is I follow WAY MORE than 12 blogs. I love reading them all and they ALL bring me sunshine in so many ways or they wouldn't be on my list!

Happy Blogging and Happy Saturday!

Random Dozen

1. If you could compete in one Olympic event (not necessarily winter sports) what would it be? Hmmm...probably ice skating...although it makes me laugh to write that! And I KNOW it'll make my friends and family laugh too. It's OK, I can take it!
2. Do remember a specific Olympic moment from the past? It's probably not fair that I read several responses today. I have to say I remember Mary Lou Retton's perfect vault with Bella Karoli (sp?) looking on. Eric Jansen's speed skating tries and wins. I also distinctly remember Dorothy Hamill's "Hamill Camel" and everyone getting their hair cut like hers. OK so I don't do "a specific"...:-)
3. Have you ever known anyone who competed in the Olympics? Nope.
4. If everyday activities were Olympic-worthy, which activity would you have a gold medal in? Hmmmm....computer use/creation of documents and forms.
5. Do you know anything about your ethnic heritage? My family has Irish background and on my Mom's side is Pennsylvania Dutch.
6. Do you enjoy sleeping late? YEP!! I don't get to do it enough...but I enjoy it when it happens.
7. Have you ever performed CPR on anyone? Do you know how? (Yes, that's two, I know. Whatevs.) No I haven't. Yes I do.
8. Name one country you'd like to visit and explain why. I have always wanted to visit Italy. I just love the pictures I see and movies like "Under the Tuscan Sun" just move me!
9. Have you ever fixed up a couple romantically? Hmmm...don't think so.
10. What is the last book you read? The last book I read is the fourth book in a Christian Scrapbooking series of fiction by Rebecca Seitz, "Perfect Piece". I am now reading a Nicholas Sparks' novel.
11. Do you enjoy sleeping late? NO, YOU write the question! How's that for random?? Do you ever feel guilty being so late with your Random Dozen? Yes I do...but I am trying to get over it!
12. What is your favorite meal at your favorite restaurant? Hmmm...I LOVE the steak at Outback. I love the mushroom pasta at our local Italian restaurant. I don't really have a favorite restaurant.

Deep Thoughts for a Wednesday....

This morning DS 4, LG and I were on the way to work, DS 4 and I had an interesting conversation:

As we passed under the interstate, DS 4 said, "Mom, you know how homeless people sometimes crawl up in the slope of the bridge and sleep?"

I said, "Yes."

He said, "I don't think you could get a peaceful night's sleep like that. I mean it must be so loud. I wonder how many of them go deaf or at least hard of hearing."

I told him that I wasn't sure about that, but I was sure it would be hard to sleep with traffic passing overhead.

Then he said, "I wonder what dreams they had as children. I mean it must be really sad to be homeless and know that they probably dreamed big when they were little."

Yes, son, that is quite sad.

I teared up...not so much because of broken dreams of the homeless...but because this young man has such a heart of compassion!

The song that is making it's way through my heart and mind today is Leeland and Brandon Heath: Follow You.

Leeland - Follow You with special guest Brandon Heath (official video) from Provident Label Group on Vimeo.

Tuesday Tid-bits

I know it's Tuesday, but we had yesterday off, so it feels like Monday to me. It was so beautiful outside yesterday, but I didn't really get OUT. I did, however, enjoy the sunshine streaming through my windows.

Here are a few of the thoughts rolling around my head:

--I found myself really thinking about the blessing of being in a marriage that has lasted so long. We talked a bit on Sunday about how long marriages are a reflection of God's love for people. I believe that. And when I really think that I am IN one of those long marriages, it blesses me.

--My DS 3 took a 29 mile bike ride yesterday. He is really enjoying exploring and discovering new places on his bike. And he's getting quite fit in the process. It's fun to watch him do new things.

--His first track meet is this week. He's pole vaulting again and working quite hard at it. I can't wait to go see it!

--I lost a notebook that has some very important paperwork for school. It has me a bit frustrated, but I'm hopeful I'll find it in the next few days. Otherwise, I'm going to have to "fess up" to someone here at school.

--Tonight is class 7 of our ten week foster/adoption class. I am not going to lie, I'll be quite glad when I can have my Tuesday nights back again!

--I am thinking seriously about making a commitment to read some of the "classics" (books) that I have never read. The problem is, I don't really want to add one more "to-do" to my list. Instead, I think I'll consider it a journey that I'm going to take...that way there's no deadline to meet.

Well, that's all from my head right now. Hope you're all having a wonderful week so far.

I wish I had the pictures...

I wish I had taken pictures to capture our Valentine's Day weekend, but I didn't. I'll have to trust my words and memory to capture the love I've witnessed over the past few days:

Friday night was pretty quiet at our house. I must follow up my last post with the fact that LG did, in fact, receive a call from her Mother quite out of the blue. LG seemed glad to talk to her--although I am still amazed at just how distant she seems--more like talking to a long lost cousin than the woman who gave birth to her. Her Mother agreed to call LG back on Saturday at 10am.

Saturday we waited for the phone call. It didn't come until MUCH later in the day. Of course, there was a "logical explanation". And I'm GLAD she at least called with that because waiting at 10am and 10:30am and 11am was no picnic.

Anyway, we had the pleasure of watching LG's three younger siblings (ages 5, 4, and 3). Let me just say that if I ever had any doubts that I am "done being a Mommy to children in the preK age range"---they are gone! I love these kids...but I was worn out by the time they left! I love borrowing and sending them home. It was fun to see LG play with her siblings. They love each other SO MUCH. Even more, though, I loved watching my DS 4 interact with them. He entertained and treated them as if they also were a part of our family. It was so very sweet.

Saturday night, DH and I took DSs 3, 4 and LG to our Japanese Steak House for a Family Valentine's Dinner. LG had never seen them cook at your table. We had a great time! Again, my boys make me so proud how they help her enjoy each new experience. DS 3 really takes the cake here, though. He coached her through the entire meal. These two are kind of alike, so it's fun to watch them interact.

Sunday we went to church and then had our small group at the house. The kids and I also took in the movie "Tooth Fairy" (one I swore I'd NEVER see when I watched the preview) with DS 4's friend L and HER Mother. Yes, I think we just went on an 11-year-old "family date"! Just something else for me to investigate a bit more in the coming days/weeks.

In other news from my "out-of-town" Valentines: DS 1 went to Louisiana this weekend for Mardi Gras and an Ultimate Frisbee tournament. It sounds like it was quite cold and muddy. He reported that most of the players came back with some sort of injury....BUT I know he had a great time listening to some great jazz music in downtown New Orleans.

DS 2 ran a half marathon Sunday morning! It was his first. He finished in 1:54:54. He texted DS 3 and told him to start training cause he needs to do it too. That text was followed closely by, "And tell Mom she can do it too." OK whatever!

Now it's 1:45am on Monday morning of President's Day and I'm awake. I don't know why. I woke up thinking just how blessed I am. I love my family. I love my life. And I thank God for both!

Happy [belated] Valentines!

An Open Letter to Her Mother

{I wrote this note a few days ago before LG received a phone call out of the blue from her Mother last night. It could be written to any Mother with a child who does not live with her. It's kind of my inquiring mind.}

Dear ________,


For some reason, you've been on my mind tonight more than usual. I don't know why. Maybe it's because you called her a few weeks ago, promised to call the very next day, and we still wait. Perhaps it's because the people from visitation called today to set up the appointment for her to see you. Perhaps it's because I really am wondering about you.


You gave birth, not just to her, but to six other children. Seven kids. Ages three to seventeen. For the most part, they have not been with you for any extended period of time. But I have such a hard time believing that you don't think about them.


I just finished helping your little girl with her Valentine's Cards. Tonight I realized that your middle little girl has been in my family for Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and now Valentine's. And, in that time, she's spoken to you on the phone ONE time. Once!


Where is your sense of urgency? I cannot imagine for one second missing the day-to-day happenings of my children's lives. And, honestly, most mothers I know are exactly the same regardless of income, life situations, and/or emotional stability. Do you ever feel the urge to see her? Call her? Do you wonder what she's doing when she's away from you?


I really would like to know.

You see kids love their parents. They are pretty much wired that way. And they extend grace and mercy MUCH quicker than any adult does. She is no different. But each broken promise and each missed event whittles away at her trust. If you say you're going to call, call!

Regardless of what her future holds---or what yours does---she needs it.

Random Dozen--just a little late

1. Are you pleasant when you're ill, or are you a grumpy, fussy patient? Hmmm...I'll give you MY answer, but I suppose my DH and my kids know best. I would say I'm fairly quiet when I'm ill. I really like to be left alone and just "veg". BUT, I know that I can also be whiny when I'm ill. I don't think I get grumpy--although cranky (which seems a little lower down the grumpy/fussy continuum) might be a good word.
2. When you find out that school is canceled (due to inclement weather) what is your gut reaction? This is a very interesting question for a Floridian. First of all, I have lived here for 42 years and I think school has been cancelled about a total of four days in that time---and all of THOSE days happened in the last 5 years! Secondly, if we have a cancellation, it's generally because we're getting ready to be pounded by a hurricane...so that brings with it a bit of anxiety. Honestly I can remember one or two times where I've thought, "It'll be nice to sleep in tomorrow..."
3. What is one domestic skill you wish you could improve? Keeping my kitchen counter clear and spotless.
4. Do you decorate your home for Valentine's Day? Nope.
5. What song is on your mind today? Mark Schulz, "He's my Son".
6. Do you prefer contemporary movies or classic? It depends. There's a time for both.
7. How well do you "compartmentalize" your feelings? For example, how well can you put aside a really trying moment to deal with the immediate situation which is not related to the trying moment, e.g., putting aside a tiff with your spouse in order to finish wallpapering a room. Nope. I have an awful time with this. I can usually remember stuff from days, weeks, or months ago that sometimes impact my reactions to a situation or a person. I work on it. I am no where near where I need to be in this department, however.
8. What is the first thing that attracted you to your spouse? (Or if you're single, to your best friend.) His smile and love for God.
9. When was the last time your heart raced? Wow! I can't remember. Perhaps it was a few weeks ago when I was mad and scared all at once.
10. What are your memories of Valentine's Day at school? We always made our own "mailbox" and then delivered the little cards to friends on that day. It was usually accompanied by some treats and a movie (reel-to-reel in my day). This is one tradition that hasn't changed all that much (except, of course, the movie projector).
11. If you were going to receive candy for Valentine's Day, which would you prefer? I really would prefer to NOT receive candy for V-day. BUT, if I did, I'd love almond M&Ms---they don't even have to be pink, red and white.
12. Red or pink? I think I prefer red most days.

Henderson: NOW's take on Tebow ad trivializes real problems

Henderson: NOW's take on Tebow ad trivializes real problems

I have really tried to steer clear of the hype about Tim Tebow's ad with his Mother for Focus on the Family. The truth is, I have friends on both sides of that fence and I don't want to be divisive on my blog--or in my life. I read this article today, however, in one of our local newspapers and thought: "WOW! He's got such a good point!" I couldn't NOT share it.

Former Tampa Bay Buccaneers player Warren Sapp was arrested in Miami this past weekend accused of domestic violence with a girlfriend. It's a story that is all too familiar with sports figures. Whether it's completely true or not, it's downright SAD!

NOW...the NOW organization leader steps in and says this about Tebow's ad: "I am blown away at the celebration of the violence against women in it," she said. "That's what comes across to me even more strongly than the anti-abortion message. I myself am a survivor of domestic violence, and I don't find it charming. I think CBS should be ashamed of itself."

The author of the editorial says that NOW should be demanding that the NFL face this problem and require training for athletes about domestic violence. Then he writes: I'm not going to get into that [abortion issues] debate here, but it's worth noting that prior to the airing of the ad, when NOW was trying to force CBS to keep it off the air, O'Neill told The Associated Press, "That's not being respectful of other people's lives. It is offensive to hold one way out as being a superior way over everybody else's."

Yes, it is.

And to say that Tim and Pam Tebow have glorified violence against women is worse than offensive. It's downright stupid."

And, in my opinion, it doesn't matter whether you support the ad or you don't, stupid is the perfect word!

Just an observation....

I have been a "boy Mom" for 21 years and I still don't get the "healing power" of a guys' wrestling "match". With all my boys, with perhaps the exception of DS 3, they could go from funk to fun in a blink with one good wrestling match. And they like it! The head locks. The tapouts. The holds. All of it. They still scare me some...they sound like they're dying at times...then they come up smiling! I think someone should do a study on the healing power of the wrestling match...shoot, maybe someone already has.

It's something my female brain will NEVER understand. I just know to move the furniture and pray that no one gets hurt!

A WHY?? and a WOW!!

DS 4 is officially in the tween years. He turned 11 a few weeks ago. I have to say that these years (between 10 and 14) have not been my favorites for any of the guys. It's such a time of transition for them. I've been thinking a lot about how each of the first three navigated these waters and praying especially for DS 4 as he takes his turn. And, of course, it makes me reflective!

Today I was at the store with him. He was spending his birthday money from his grandparents. While there, he wanted something and I said "no". He's definitely mastered the art of trying to persuade. In fact, I was thinking today that this skill should serve him well on our state writing exam in the 8th grade where he'll likely have to write a persuasive essay. Still, like most of us, his list of "reasons" can often sound like whining.

Like any younger sibling, they LOVE to throw the "But so-and-so got such-and-such and you didn't say no..." While listening to it (and practicing the art of not feuling it) I saw a young Mother stroll by with three kids in the cart. The one in the front looked to be an older toddler or even young preK child. He had a HUGE pacifier sticking out of his mouth. I confess my FIRST thought was "Wow, he seems to be a bit old for THAT!" Followed quickly by this thought, "Why don't they make a pacifier for the tween set?" At least I might be able to elicit a little peace and quiet when it's needed.

Honestly, right after that I could only imagine how many times someone might like to have one for ME! I am sure there's times the boys would like for me to just be quiet. And likewise I'm sure DH has had that thought a time or three or four! Add to that my friends, my extended family, my colleagues and God. While I try not to do it often...I know that we all have our "whiny moments" when we are behaving like the child we used to be---pleading to have things just our way.

I prayed then that God would help me recognize it when it rises in me. I also whispered a prayer of thanks that my kids really ARE past that age. I know that no age or stage lasts forever---thank goodness!

And in the WoW! department.

While we were out shopping, I took back an iPod player that I purchased a few weeks ago back to Target. Here's the deal...I couldn't find the receipt. I didn't have the box, the instruction manual...or anything else but the player and the little things that came with it. It seemed to be working fine on all accounts BUT when you put the iPod in it, nothing comes out. Soooo...I went with the purpose of having someone help me with it or calling the company so I could figure it out.

I didn't even KNOW which credit card I used!

I packed up all the pieces I did have in a pampered chef box and took it to customer service. The lady at the counter said, "You need to go back to electronics and find the exact model and then I can look it up on one of your cards." DS 4 and I found it on display, but no boxes. The girl back there wrote all pertinent information down for me. We picked out an alternate model and returned to the front desk.

I gave the lady the number and she found it in about two seconds flat! She scanned the new machine and I was out the door in about 15 minutes total! Not ONE question asked. AMAZING!

Soooo....there ya' go a WHY? and a WOW! from my neck of the woods! Happy Saturday!

Music touches souls deeply. For me, the "right song" can be a balm when I'm weary.
This particular song, "What Faith Can Do" by Kutless, has soothed my soul on more than one occasion in the past few weeks. It seems it will play at just the right moment. For me, it's almost as if God himself is saying, "Hold on. I've got your back. I know you. I love you. I didn't promise no bumps in the road. I DID promise to be with you always. Have faith."

I've decided to share it here today. Enjoy! And, if your soul is in need, may you find comfort in these words:

How LONG Has It Been?

I can't remember the last time I played "Random Dozen" from Linda over at 2nd Cup of Coffee. Decided to link up and play again. It's part of my "blog therapy" as I work on getting my "blog groove back"!

1. Do you use the labels various charities send you as “free gifts?” Sometimes. I so rarely send mail that requires stamps and envelopes anymore, that the occasion is quite rare.

2. What is your favorite time of day (or night) for skywatching? I LOVE the sunset. Since I live on the west coast of FL, we get beautiful pictures out over the beach! And, this is a GOOD thing because I am NOT a morning person...so the east coast and I just wouldn't work.

3. What is the most adventurous you've ever been with trying a new food? (Keep it G-rated please) Hmmm...I ate a caribou hot dog in Alaska. It was excellent, by the way. I will try almost anything once (unless it's raw and has eyes).

4. Have you ever heard a rock sing? (Trust me, there's a reason for this one!) Uh NO!

5. If you could learn a language you don't presently speak, what would it be? Spanish. It's a real "need" here in our area and I often feel lost because I don't know much at all.

6. Al Capone's tombstone read, “My Jesus, Mercy.” If you could write your own epitaph, what would it say? I hope "A life lived with passion".

7. If you were a famous musician who was known by one name, like “Cher,” “Sting,” or “Jewel,” what would it be? It doesn’t have to be your first name, but it can be, if you’d like. I have NO idea on this one! How about I steal a word from #6 and say "Passion"? I don't know who would listen...but it would sum up who I want to be.

8. Have you ever been inordinately “into” a television show? I suppose I am excessively into Biggest Loser and at times, American Idol. I don't think there are others that come to mind.

9. When you sneeze, do you go big, or do you do that weird “heenh!” sound that makes people think you’re going to blow your brains out? Any other variation we should know about? Depends on where I am. If I'm in class or a group, I try and keep it small and quiet. If I'm in a place where it's OK I just sneeze. I have a friend who sneezes and scares the bejeebers (is that how you spell it) out of us each and every time. She's like 70 years old and thin as a rail, but sneezes like a burly old man!

10. Do you still read an actual newspaper that you hold in your hands, or do you get your news elsewhere? Online mostly.

11. Are you a good speller? Most of the time.

12. At what time each day do you start thinking about Lost lunch?
At around 11:30 on most days.

Weekend Window Plus

I've just taken a whirlwind trip to Panama City and back (a 7 hour drive one way), so my brain is a little fried. I thought I'd do a little "bullet list" update on our weekend and my clan--so here ya go:

* The trip to Panama City was productive. My friend (and writing partner) Sandy and I went to present and network at a workshop for teachers.

* DH was home with the kids. I'm so thankful for this man and his willingness to be such an important part of our family and the day-to-day running of our home.

* DS 2 and I talked when I was driving north. I drove right through the town where they live. It was HARD for me to know that he was right near the interstate when I was driving by and I had to keep going! He spent the weekend at a retreat in preparation for his upcoming mission trip to Nicaragua. I am so excited for him to go. I know it will be a blessing for him.

* DS 1 and I actually connected on my way home. Sandy's daughter and SIL live in the same town...so we stopped and took the three of them to dinner. SO nice to visit with them even if it was just briefly. DS 1 is doing well...he LOVES attending all the sporting events at the University. He had been at a fencing tournament earlier in the day and even told me he went to watch "Underwater Hockey"...not sure how you watch that...but OK.

* DS 3 continues to be quite busy at school and at church. He is now transitioning to run sound and seems to enjoy it. Track season has begun and he is planning to pole vault again. I have to tell you, he amazes me at his determination with this. I am praying he has success getting over the bar this year. He has been working out a lot at the gym and really is focused on his goal. I love that about him. He knows how to keep his eyes on the goal and focus.

* DS 4 spent the last three days of last week in bed. He had a horrible cold. He seems better now. In a week's time he's asked to be homeschooled, switch classes, and/or switch schools. This made me think perhaps something was happening at school. We've dug and talked and asked and questioned. Last week he told his Dad...and today out of the blue told me...I just don't like getting up as early as we have to. I will like it better when I can get up a little later. I want to say "Welcome to life son!" The middle school years have not been my favorite with ANY of my boys...so as we face them...I covet your prayers. :-)

* LG has had a great week. She continues to adjust well and brings us all such joy with her cute little personality. I had to laugh as she played Hide-n-Seek with DS 4 yesterday. It was so sweet to listen to them as if they had been together for ever! She actually had a crying spell one night last week. I know it doesn't sound like that's a "good thing"...but I have not seen her cry once since she moved in. So...this tells me that she feels comfortable enough with us to share what's going on in her heart. It also reveals that she's a normal little girl who has had to endure some very grown-up circumstances. No one wants to be removed from their family. No one. We expect that there will be an ebb and flow of emotion anyway. I'm just glad to see it surface. I think it means that we can continue to help her take the road to stability and security.

Well...friends, that's it from my neck of the woods today. Perhaps I'll get back to more substantial "thought-blogging" one of these days. Who knows? It's a strange season I'm in. Still, I'm thankful for this outlet...even when it seems a bit superficial.